One new teen-mom every day in Malaysia

With teenagers becoming more sexually active, doctors are sounding the alarm over the rising number of pregnancies. Experts are urging concrete measures, including proper sex education and a wide range of sexual reproductive health services for teenagers.

KLANG: More Malaysian teenage girls are getting pregnant, with a major hospital recording at least one case every day.

According to Dr Mohamad Farouk Abdullah, senior consultant and head of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at the Tengku Ampuan Rahimah Hospital here, about 14% of the 12,000 babies delivered annually at the hospital were by teenage mothers with many of them unwed.

“We thought such numbers of teen pregnancies were only in Klang, but I am also hearing of similar scenarios in the other six specialist hospitals in Selangor,” he added.

“The youngest girl to give birth at our hospital was a 12-year-old girl,” Dr Mohamad Farouk said at the “Pregnant by Choice, Not by Chance or Force” seminar. It was organised by the hospital in conjunction with its Family Planning month.

The Health Ministry recorded 18,652 births by girls below the age of 19 last year compared with 5,962 in the second half of 2010.

Tengku Ampuan Rahimah Hospital's medical social welfare officer Nurul Azira Mahamad Jafar said she had been handling at least one case of an unwed mother every working day of this year.

“The highest number of referrals I have had in a day so far was 14. These are our children who are pregnant in their teens,” said Nurul Azira, who has been handling cases of unwed mothers as well as rape and sex abuse victims at the hospital for the past six years.

Most of the pregnant girls are referred to the hospital by clinics.

This is because teenage pregnancies are considered “high-risk cases”. A teenager is twice more likely to die from pregnancy or childbirth complications than women in their 20s.

Most of the girls come to the hospital complaining of discomfort such as stomachache and spotting.

As part of the hospital's protocol, the doctors screen them for pregnancy and once confirmed, they would be admitted and the family notified.

It is also part of the hospital's policy to provide antenatal care and treatment to them, regardless of their marital status.

Nurul Azira said pregnant teenage girls under 18 and their babies were protected under the Child Act 2001 and would be referred to the Social Welfare Department.

In most cases, the girls became pregnant because they were in relationships and had consensual sex.

“They are also from broken homes and low-income families. Some are runaways,” she said.

“We have to establish rapport with these girls. Out of fear, they won't even confide in their family, so we need to gain their trust to be able to get their family's contact details,” said Nurul Azira.

She said many parents expressed shame when told of their daughter's condition.

“They are afraid their neighbours will know,” she said. “There are also those who are numb to the fact because they feel they are unable to control their daughters.

“We will usually refer these girls and their parents to the department for counselling,” she added.

Nurul Azira said if the parents were unable to take care of the unwed mothers and babies, they could surrender them to the department.

She cited the case of a 13-year-old girl, who gave birth at the hospital recently.

“Her parents said they could not ensure that the girl would not get pregnant again as the father of the child was still living in the same community,” said Nurul Azira.

“So the parents agreed to the girl and her baby being sent to a department home.”
  
By IVY SOON newsdesk@thestar.com.my/Asian News Network

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Living in sex-citing times

SO AUNTY, SO WHAT? By JUNE H. L. WONG  The Star/Asia News Network

It seems Malaysian women and men are meeting as near equals in ... the bedroom. Now how did that happen? 

WELL, enough has been said about the banning of a certain children’s sex education picture book. What I want to natter about is a recent report on the state of sex among Malaysians.

It’s simply awesome: the latest Durex Sexual Well-Being Global Survey found that a whopping 81% of Malaysian women enjoy great sex.

Not only that, nine out of 10 Malaysian women, or 89%, agreed that sex brought them emotionally closer to their partners, and 88% even said they felt loved during sex.

Now when did Malaysian men become such considerate and high-performing stallions in bed? And how?

Apparently, Durex interviewed 241 men and 265 women in Malaysia aged 18 and above. The news report did not provide details on the age breakdown so one can only make guesses how this blissful state has emerged.

Perhaps most of the male respondents were below 35 and raised by mothers who taught them to respect and love women. And to always put the women’s needs before their own.

They could also have been exposed to chick flicks and somehow figured out what women want, despite the neurotic, fickle and often ridiculous spins Hollywood puts on such female-centric films.

Or women themselves have decided they won’t be just passive lovers who must accept what their partners dish out to them in bed and are demanding more attention and action to reach sexual fulfilment.

If that’s what’s happening, then finally I can echo that old Virginia Slims cigarette ad: You’ve come a long way, baby! And add, you’re smoking hot!

What’s more, if both men (89% say they have great sex) and women are finding sexual satisfaction, then surely the old taboos and Victorian belief that sex is only for procreation and not for pleasure are fast being discarded.

Mind you, some of the stuff that’s going on these days makes you wonder if it is still circa 1900. But the truth is sexual liberation for women started on May 9, 1960, when the US Federal Drug Authority (FDA) approved the oral contraceptive – the Pill.

With that, women were finally in control over their reproductive health, and with the fear of unwanted pregnancies largely removed, new notions of sex and pleasure took off.

It must be said it was the baby boomers who led the sexual revolution and broke many of the taboos that cowed their mothers. And it is likely it is these baby boomer mums who have taught their sons and daughters well.

Boom-boom mums grew up in the more relaxed and easy-going 1970s and 80s, were well educated and went on to become a force to be reckoned with in the workforce.

Some quarters (a.k.a. men) may bemoan the breaking down of the old “father as breadwinner, mother as housewife” mould and say that’s the cause of the increase in divorces.

There’s probably some truth to it but others (a.k.a. women) see it as the crumbling of a very unfair power structure. Now, men are no longer lords and masters over their womenfolk and the modern marriage has become a partnership between equals.

So what if that makes some men who want to cling to the old ways unhappy? Why should women stay unhappy to make them happy?

By the same token, women don’t have to take anything they don’t like lying down any more. But really, what do men have to complain about? Almost 90% of them are getting their satisfaction. And you don’t get that if you are sleeping with planks.

The battle of the sexes is far from over but it sure gladdens my heart to know that in one battleground – the bedroom – there are only victors. The battleground is now a jolly playground.

We can still do more to teach young people about safe sex because despite enlightened parenting, Internet and MTV, misconceptions and misfires can happen.

I remember reading about a married couple who failed to conceive. When they finally consulted a doctor, they soon discovered the problem: the man was trying to make love to his wife’s navel!

Can’t be much fun there.

Human beings really only have two appetites grounded in physical desire: food and sex.

We Malaysians are already living in a food paradise. If the Durex survey is accurate, perhaps we aren’t too far from creating another nirvana for ourselves.

Like I said: Awwwwesome!

The writer is proud to be a baby boomer, the generation that may be a little long in the tooth now but still has plenty of bite.